Anxiety & Self Esteem

Are you trying to find a therapist for self-esteem or anxiety? Are you sometimes overwhelmed with panic, fear or self-doubt? If so, I imagine you would like to be heard, understood and validated in a confidential and completely non-judgemental atmosphere. Maybe you are looking for a fresh perspective – a therapist who will be responsive to you in ways friends and family haven’t. You may have no one to talk to or struggle with people-pleasing, perfectionism, fear of failure, fear of conflict and saying no.

Why self-esteem is essential
Self-esteem allows us to relate authentically, act on our own behalf and follow our dreams. If confident, we engage in activities which affirm rather than erode our self-worth, and we cultivate close, supportive relationships. Would you like to build self-confidence and be more expressive of who you really are? I would love to help you discover yourself and your value as a human being.

What is self-esteem? Some define it is our own evaluation of self-worth. How confident are you? How do you determine your worth? Are you more concerned about others’ opinions than your own? Do you relentlessly compare yourself to others? Are you achieving goals yet still feeling like a failure? Are your accomplishments a reaction to criticism or a reflection of your genuine interests?

If you have been in situations in which your feelings, needs and perspectives were not valued, you may have understandably developed low self-esteem. Negative messages from the past might affect your core beliefs, self-talk, ways of interacting, quality life and capacity to make important, timely decisions. Consider that the way you relate to yourself sets the tone for your interactions with others. Are you interested in connecting with your true feelings and cultivating greater self-confidence? If so, please contact me. Let me help you be your personal and professional best.

Depression

People casually use the phrase, “I’m so depressed!” to say they are feeling down. But a temporary case of the blues – something we all experience – has nothing to do with real depression. True depression is not the blues, sadness or even grief. It is an overwhelming despair so bleak that people who have experienced it say that it is the worst pain they have ever endured.

Depression is treatable. And there is an excellent chance that you will recover and learn how to manage your depression.

If you are feeling any of these symptoms its time to talk…

  • Persistent feelings of sadness and/or crying spells
  • Agitation and irritability
  • Lack of pleasure in life
  • Withdrawal from favorite activities
  • Sleeping too much or inability to sleep
  • Drop in grades or inability to concentrate
  • Thoughts of death and suicide
  • Fatigue or loss of energ
  • Significant weight loss, weight gain or change in appetite

You don’t have to feel this way.

Mending a Broken Heart

There is nothing like the pain of a broken heart.
The loss of an important relationship in your life after loving so deeply can be a very difficult process to get through.

Sometimes it hurts so much that it feels almost like someone has cut off your left arm. Thoughts of your loved one relentlessly intrude as you try to go about your day. Feelings of confusion and grief make it difficult to eat, sleep and enjoy many of the things you did before. It may feel as if you have unfinished business and are still searching for answers for why this has happened. Your mind travels back to warm memories of the unforgettable experiences you had together and can’t understand why it had to change. You feel intense sorrow for the loss of the dreams that will not come true.

I can support you by to helping you to understand and process what happened, find ways to work through the pain, begin to build a normal life, and even love again.

Often the blessing of loss is learning more about yourself and how you are in relationship with others. This learning can serve you well to rebuild and find love again if that is what you desire.

Workplace and Career Challenges

Bad Boss?
Toxic Culture?
In a role that is not really YOU?
Unsure of your own personal vision for the future and how to get there?

Many of us spend more time at work that we do with our families. And its been estimated that more than half of us are disengaged and unhappy about their personal progress at work for a variety of reasons. I have spent many years in corporate environments working with people at every level of organizations helping them to build new skills, set new directions and reshape their careers.

Often it begins with clearly defining your goals and aspirations, identifying the obstacles and strategizing a plan to move toward a more rewarding and fulfilling position. I can support you in crafting a strategy to move in the direction you desire and gaining a renewed sense of purpose.

Life Transitions

If you are going through a life transitionTherapy can help you to reflect on your life so far and support your efforts to create a fulfilling future. Your quest might be to forge a sense of identity and purpose – to discover your key values and find your place in the world. Our greatest challenge is often to live an enriched, meaningful life despite our beginnings and current circumstances.

If we don’t envision and act on our hopes for a better future, we end up settling for a life that happens to us – a life of potential regrets. Whether we realize it or not, some regrets stem from choices we make each day. Sometimes we need to recover our personal direction – to re-establish connection to what is true for us. Consider the extent to which your daily habits help you to actualize your identity and potential. What if each moment can be used to shape the rest of your life? What is the story you hope to tell one day?

Many of my clients grapple with geographical moves or with leaving an employer. Some lose special relationships – with partners, family, friends – and struggle to find ways to move on. The difficult feelings which surface prompt self-reflection and concerns about the unknown ahead.

How can I help with a life transition?

I can help you put your best foot forward. I offer a comfortable space close to downtown Toronto where you can connect with the feelings and needs triggered by big shift in your life. After taking a thorough history, I help clients to explore answers to their own important questions as well as to determine the choices which might lead to greater self-care, resilience and fulfillment. If your life transition evokes questions about your life purpose, I can help you to clarify your core values, identify your unique talents, discern your true desires, craft a personal mission statement, turn dreams into plans and realize your vision for the future.

Loneliness

Did you know that loneliness is on the rise globally and that about one third of Canadians live alone?

Loneliness is sometimes defined as the gap between a person’s actual and desired social relationships. Studies have revealed that loneliness and isolation negatively impact mental and physical health, reducing quality of life and lifespan. We are wired for connection, needing both social and intimate connections.

Reasons for loneliness are numerous and if you are facing one or more of these, I can help.

Even in the best of situations connecting can be difficult. We can feel lonely in a relationship or when surrounded by people. We might want to be known yet fear being known. Self-disclosure, which is key to creating close relationships, can be unnerving to anyone who has felt judged or rejected.

Is there anyone you can confide in and count on? Do you have meaningful exchanges? A bond develops when interactions involve vulnerability, reciprocity, shared experiences, interests and values. We generally benefit from quality time with people who hear, understand and value us. Quality time can be face-to-face, one-on-one time or it can be side-by-side time doing something you enjoy. If creating intimate or social connections is challenging for you, I encourage you to contact me.